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Cabinet ponders new laws that seek to radically change marriage

Posted by jambonewspot on September 28, 2009

A new law that seeks to revolutionise marriage by outlawing forced marriage and wife inheritance while embracing come-we-stay unions has been drafted.

The Marriage Bill also provides that one does not have to pay dowry to get married, but recognises dowry payment by those who are capable of doing so. It also states clearly that dowry will not be recovered in the event that the marriage collapses.

However, the Bill’s fate hangs in the balance after the Cabinet stopped its debate on grounds that further consultations needed to be made before it is tabled in Parliament.

Last week’s Cabinet meeting chaired by President Kibaki stopped debate on the draft Marriage Bill, Matrimonial Property Bill and the Family Protection Bill to pave the way for “further consultations” with MPs and other stakeholders.

Broaden consensus

“The Cabinet decided to hold further consultations with MPs and other stakeholders in order to broaden consensus on the Bills before they are tabled in Parliament,” read a Cabinet brief dispatched to newsrooms after the session.

The decision has thrown into uncertainty the Bill that also proposes that any man or woman in a marriage would provide for the upkeep of the financially weaker spouse.

According to the draft copy of the Bill, a couple will be deemed to be legally married if they cohabit for two years or more.

It also allows the bridegroom and the bride to decide whether their marriage will remain monogamous or become polygamous at some stage, so long as they both consent in writing.

The Bill further grants a widow the right to marry a person of her choice — a clear attempt to eradicate the culture of forced wife inheritance practised among some Kenyan communities.

It also blocks the marriage of a person to his stepmother, a practice which still prevails in some parts of the country, and further blocks one from marrying an adopted son or daughter.

The Bill seeks to outlaw child marriages by setting the minimum age for marriage at 18 years.

A minister who spoke to the Nation dispelled fears by gender activists that the Cabinet had effectively shot down the three Bills.

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“What we did was to refer the Bills back to the drafters so that they are consolidated into one piece of legislation because they are all related,” said the minister, who asked not to be named because he is not allowed to reveal Cabinet secrets.

Family lawyer Judy Thongori, in an interview with the Nation, defended the three Bills, saying they were “well-intentioned”.

Ms Thongori argued that the Marriage Bill, in particular, would consolidate all the seven laws currently governing marriages into one.

“They are very good Bills, we do not need to consolidate them into one. Their enactment will address once and for all the inconsistencies in the various pieces of legislation relating to marriage. They do not in any way segregate against one gender,” she stated.

Fr Vincent Wambugu, the secretary of the Kenya Episcopal Conference, which is the assembly of Catholic bishops in the country, objected to the clause recognising the come-we-stay marriages.

“Marriages should not be taken that casually. They are a blessing from God and they are not influenced by issues of property and inheritance. You do not cohabit for two years and declare you are married.”

Renowned Islamic preacher and nominated MP Sheikh Mohammed Dor cautioned the Cabinet to tread cautiously on the three laws.

“We are happy they rejected them in their current form. We will vigorously resist laws which undermine Islamic statutes regarding marriage and the rights of women because these are clearly spelt out,” he said.

Under the Marriage Bill, marriages will be monogamous or “potentially” polygamous where the man could marry more wives without divorcing the first wife.

Couples planning to marry will give a notice of their intention to the registrar of marriages between three weeks to three months of the intended marriage.

Marriages contracted under either customary or Islamic law are deemed as polygamous or potentially polygamous. In all other cases, marriages are presumed to be monogamous meaning that those cohabiting have to agree to have monogamous unions.

The Bill also deems a marriage null and void if one of the parties is found to have been insane, drunk or under the influence of drugs at the time of consenting to the marriage.

The marriage will also be declared null and void if it was conducted in the absence of the bride or the bridegroom or where either party was not capable of consummating it and has remained in that state ever since.

The Bill recognises marriages under the Islamic and the Hindu faith while also allowing the registration of customary marriages as opposed to the current situation where no Act of Parliament provides for such marriages.

The Bill provides that where the parties are separated, either spouse shall maintain the other spouse. In the current laws, the husband has a duty to maintain a needy wife, but there is no provision for the wife to maintain a needy husband.

The Bill also allows a man to borrow money on the strength of his wife’s finances and vice versa, so long as the money is to be used to cater for the family’s needs.

The Bill lists the grounds for divorce as including proven cases of adultery, cruelty, neglect and separation or desertion for at least two years.

SOURCE: DAILY NATION

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Fitting Farewell for Gardson”Gad” Mainge Kamau in Dallas, TX

Posted by jambonewspot on September 28, 2009

Story by Tony Karanja

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DALLAS, TX- Hundreds of family members, friends and colleagues gathered to bid farewell and remember the life of Gardson Mainge Kamau on Sunday afternoon at the Upendo Baptist Church. Gardson Kamau was found dead in his apartment in Plano, TX a weekend ago.

Alice Wanjiru delivers the opening scripture reading at the memorial service. Photo by Tony Karanja (Jambonewspot)

Alice Wanjiru delivers the opening scripture reading at the memorial service. Photo by Tony Karanja (Jambonewspot)

The service began shortly after 3 pm. The Master of Ceremony Mr. Daniel Ndogo kicked off the proceedings giving a rundown of the program. Shortly thereafter, the opening scripture was read by Alice Wanjiru, a friend to Gardson and a neighbor to the deceased. The Eulogy was read by Peter Mwaniki a friend to Gardson. Mwaniki recalled the good times they shared with the deceased as well as Gardson’s signature dishes that he used to lavish them with. He remembered Gardson’s hearty laugh and numerous jokes. Dorothy Manyara, a cousin to the deceased recounted to the mourners the moments leading up to the finding of Gardson’s body. Although this account had been recounted before to mourners who had visited the family earlier on, it continued to strike a chord as it provided a reminder of how important it is to always check up on each other especially when one is living alone. Silence gripped the mourners as they took in every word as she provided this chilling timeline. This story reminded this writer of the similarly eerie circumstances a couple of months ago which led to the finding of a Kenyan lady, Gloria Kathurima in Manchester, UK. Gloria was also found dead in her apartment and Greater Manchester Police had to issue a plea to the public to help them locate her family. Her family has since been contacted.

Dorothy Manyara, a cousin to the deceased recounts the events leading to the tragic saturday evening, when Gardson body was found inside his aprtment in Plano. Photo by Tony Karanja (Jambonewspot)

Dorothy Manyara, a cousin to the deceased recounts the events leading to the tragic saturday evening, when Gardson body was found inside his aprtment in Plano. Photo by Tony Karanja (Jambonewspot)

There was an emotional moment when nieces and nephews to Gardson rose to speak and pay tribute to their uncle in a special presentation. After introductions by Miriam Manyara, they gave way to young Sheillane Murigi. A smiling Sheilanne remembered how Uncle Kamau used to take charge when they were in his presence and how “cool” of an uncle he was. After going through the happy moments with the deceased, Sheilanne then tearfully paid tribute to Uncle Kamau. “We miss you Uncle Kamau”, she said tears rolling down her eyes prompting audible gasps as some mourners were unable to hold back their emotions. Watching Sheilanne’s tribute gave a clear indication of the bond they had and it was all too clear of the gap he had left in the kids’ lives.

Sheilanne Murigi pays tribute to "Uncle Kamau" as Miriam Manyara and other nieces and nephews look on. Photo by Tony Karanja (Jambonewspot)

Sheilanne Murigi pays tribute to "Uncle Kamau" as Miriam Manyara and other nieces and nephews look on. Photo by Tony Karanja (Jambonewspot)

Other speakers who spoke about his life included Dr. Joseph H. Parker (1st Presbyterian Church of Plano) and Esther Manyara who is the deceased’s auntie. Mrs Manyara had travelled from California to see off her nephew. Also speaking at the event was Alex Ndirangu who was also a member of the committee and a representative of Trinity Ushindi Ministry. Mr. Ndirangu pointed out that it was important for friends to check up on each other and make sure they follow up even when they do not respond to our phonecalls. He said it was important not to assume that they are just ignoring our calls as something may be amiss and unless we follow up, it may be too late. He reminded the mourners that, had Dorothy not make an extra effort to look for Gardson when he did not return her phone calls, he may not have been found as soon as he was and would probably have spent a  much longer time in the apartment. Pastor Jackson Kingori of Neema Gospel Church, in Richardson, spoke on behalf of the Church and the sermon was delivered by Pastor Muniu who is the Associate Pastor at Upendo Baptist Church in Garland, TX and the hosting church for the memorial service.

Family members for line up for prayers led by Pastor John Mugo. Photo by Tony Karanja-(Jambonewspot)

Family members for line up for prayers led by Pastor John Mugo. Photo by Tony Karanja-(Jambonewspot)

As the close of the ceremony approached, prayers were said for the family. Pastor John Mugo of St. Matthews Anglican Church, in Irving,  led the session as he prayed for God’s Grace over the family and also prayed for the family’s strength. A fundraiser followed shortly after Mr. Maina Kaigi gave a recap of what is needed to send Gardson home to his final resting place. Just before the fundraiser, one of the speakers, Alex Ndirangu provided a light moment when he “asked” anyone who owed Gardson some money to “pay up now”. “Our traditions are different, but anyone who owes Gardson some money can pay up now (at this fundraiser),” Alex quipped prompting a burst of laughter from the mourners. “…and anyone who is owed by Gardson can claim a repayment only if they showed documentary evidence of the existence of the debt,” he added to more laughter.

Pastor Kingori addresing mourners during the service. Photo by Tony Karanja (Jambonewspot)

Pastor Jackson Kingori (Neema Gospel Church, Richardson, TX) addressing mourners during the service. Photo by Tony Karanja (Jambonewspot)

 

Pastor John Mugo (St. Matthew Anglican Church-Irving TX) leads in praying for the deceased's family. Photo by Tony Karanja (Jambonewspot)

Pastor John Mugo (St. Matthews Anglican Church-Irving TX) leads in praying for the deceased's family. Photo by Tony Karanja (Jambonewspot)

 

Alex Ndirangu, committee member and representative of Trinity Ushindi Ministry-Dallas-TX speaks on the life on Gardson Kamau and the importance of always keeping touch with your friends and loved ones. Photo by Tony Karanja(Jambonewspot)

Alex Ndirangu, committee member and representative of Trinity Ushindi Ministry-Dallas-TX speaks on the life of Gardson Kamau and the importance of always keeping in touch with your friends and loved ones. Photo by Tony Karanja(Jambonewspot)

Mr. Charles Koinange, a cousin to the deceased gave a vote of thanks and thanked friends, the Pastors of the various churches that were involved in the funeral arrangements as well as prayers, and well wishers who have consoled the family since the past weekend. The viewing of the body followed shortly afterwards  and after the viewing, the body was taken back to Rahma Funeral Home for preparation for the final journey to Kenya.

Pall-bearers escort the coffin containing Gardson Kamau after the service. Photo by Tony Karanja (Jambonewspot)

Pall-bearers escort the coffin containing Gardson Kamau after the service. Photo by Tony Karanja (Jambonewspot)

Mr. Kamau’s body left for Kenya on Monday September 28th, 2009 and his funeral is scheduled for Friday October 2nd 2009 at his home in Nakuru District. May God rest his Soul in Eternal Peace.

APPRECIATION NOTE FROM THE FAMILY

Thank you so much for your out pouring of love and kindness as we grieve our beloved Gardson Kamau. It is because of all your prayers and support  that Gardson will be laid to rest this Friday at his home in Nakuru, Kenya.
 
 
Celebrating a life well lived:
http://www.gardsonkamau.us/
 
Details of the Memorial Service: http://www.jambonewspot.com/Gardson_Kamau_Memorial.htm
 
What Happened:
http://jambonewspot.com/Kenyan_man_found_dead-at_home_in_Plano_TX.htm

TO VIEW MORE PICTURES OF THE MEMORIAL SERVICE, VISIT http://www.gardsonkamau.us

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SIDE NOTE

It has been a somber couple of months or so for Kenyans in the Diaspora and I take this opportunity to convey my heartfelt condolences and urge you to take heart. Kenyans in the diaspora have lost sisters, brothers, friends, parents,sons and daughters and it has been a difficult and trying period for many in the community. Those that we have lost include:

Gardson Mainge Kamau-Dallas, TX

Moses Muniu Gatere—Dallas, TX

Justice Mbaka- Dallas TX

George Onyango- Yucaipa, CA

Gloria Kathurima- Manchester, UK

Tabitha “Michelle” Wanjiru Njenga- London, UK

Perpetua “Wendy” Muthoni  Muchemi- London, UK

Timothy Muraguri Ndegwa- Atlanta, GA

Jack Apollo Awuor- California

And many others that I may have missed.

Many others in the Diaspora have lost their loved ones back home and just to mention a few:

Eva Wangechi Maina (Sister to Eric Maina-Dallas, TX)

Justus Muiruri Marugu (Grandfather to Charles Muiruri Maina-AjabuAfrica.com)

George Njuguna a.k.a Georgie (Brother to Anne Njuguna and Benson Njuguna(DJ Sisqo) of Dallas, TX

 

For all the above mentioned as well as those other countless ones that I have not mentioned, hope the words from this clip provide you with solace as you remember your loved ones. They all left this earth in different ways but God loved them equally. May God rest their souls in eternal peace

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